Assualt with a "Friendly" Weapon.....say what?

The Week in Weird (Sex Toy Assault Edition)

Jan 29, 2011 – 8:11 AM

Tony Deconinck Contributor

Did last week feel weird to you? No? Because over here, we ran out of room before we could summarize all of it. So far we have flaming zombies, a woman allegedly attacking a police officer with a sex toy, a wheelchair that really captures the spirit of the urban assault vehicle and America's next hybrid sport: Knokkers.

If you think you're ready, you can jump ahead to Fark.com and take the Fark Weird News Quiz without this little recap. If not, let's get started.

Dildon't Even Think About It, Lady

For one Illinois woman, the night started out so promising: dinner, an escort home, a man in her bedroom, some wrestling, handcuffs and then ... jail? Wait, back up.

Gurnee Police Department

Police say Carolee Bildsten, 56, attempted to strike a cop with a sex toy on Nov. 9. But Bildsten insists she was acting in self-defense.

The woman wanted to go out but decided that her purse was just too heavy. So she left it at home, not really realizing that it meant she was also without money until after she was done with a big meal and numerous fine alcoholic beverages.

No problem. She explained to the Joe's Crab Shack manager that she had to run home and get her money and that she'd be right back. A police officer found her lying down on a patch of grass (she said she was having difficulty because of being tipsy and having a broken foot) between the restaurant and her house, and the officer escorted her home so she could get money for the restaurant.

After a few minutes in her house, she said she was rifling through a drawer for money when the officer appeared in her doorway to check on her. She said that his presence startled her and scared her, so she reached for the nearest weapon at hand:

A clear plastic sex toy.

This is where the two accounts begin to diverge. According to the police officer, she attacked him with the "clear, rigid feminine pleasure device." According to the woman, she merely raised the sex toy in a defensive movement. Against what, she did not say. The intoxicated woman was then wrestled down, cuffed and arrested. Police say she could face charges for Assault with a Friendly Weapon.

Here's the link to the original story.

So much news....so here's another blog

There was so much going on this week I thought I should address at least another topic: parent(s) harming their children, sometimes to the point of killing them.

This was the story, a mother got "tired" of her two teenage children "mouthing off and talking back" so she shot them, with a weapon she purchased (5) five days prior. From the online article it doesn't appear that any neighbors or friends "saw it coming" or had any reason to suspect there was something wrong.

I guess my question is (and it can be rhetorical, or you can share your thoughts) what the heck drives a parent to harm their child? We hear all of these stories of people (whether biologically related to the child or not) abusing their kid(s) whether physically, mentally, or sexually. Or where the boyfriend or girlfriend of the "parent" is the one who causes so much harm to the point of death in the child.

When do we say "enough is enough" and educate the public in looking for (and of course reporting) warning signs? (i.e. unusually bruising, etc.) What can we do to protect these children? (anyone who has any experience with CPS knows they are useless) Do we create more programs and help out there for the victims of abuse? Make it easier for them to come forward and obtain assistance with their problem?

How do we help those adults who possibly have mental issues causing them to harm their children? How do we reach them? What would/could we do?

This is something that hits home a bit due to the fact my husband is a Detective. He worked adult and child sexual abuse/assault and child physical abuse. Now they're solely going to focus on children (abuse, neglect, assault ~ including sexual, drownings, SIDS, etc.). And I also want to work as a Psychologist treating children (once I finish my education). I think there's so much that can and should be done, but it seems as though we are limited by cost, awareness, etc.

Are things just going to continue to get worse?

How far would you go to give your kid(s) a quality education?

Here is the story, this woman falsified documents so that she could have her kids attend a better school (which happened to be in her father's, the children's grandfather's neighborhood). She was charged with a felony and now may not be able to use her degree (she is obtaining soon) to teach as planned.

How far would you go? Would you "fib/lie" about where you lived to get your kid(s) into a "better" school? This mom says she did it for "safety" reasons and would do it all over again if she had the chance. (although she said she'd go about it a better manner) I think most schools (or school districts) have certain spots open to kid(s) who live outside of the boundaries on an as approved basis. This mother defrauded the school out of the tuition (since she didn't live there, her taxes weren't going to the school)

I'm sure we can all agree that the education of our children is one of our top priorities (along with safety and health of course) Would you risk getting jail time?And a felony on your record? (which causes more problems in and of itself as well ~ especially here in AZ where you lose your right to own a firearm, etc.) She could have avoided the sentence by paying the tuition, which I'm sure she probably didn't have the funds to do, but maybe she could have worked something out?

Would you feel bad for "defrauding" a school district, or would you feel it was a "necessary evil" to take care of your kid(s)?

Bath salts, the new drug? What the....

So after I saw this story online it got me to thinking....really? Are we that desperate to "get high" that we will try anything once? I mean I know that there is some awful stuff in Meth, kids/people huff paint or glue, etc....but bath salts? States will be banning and outlawing bath salts. Who would have thought? Next we'll have to get rid of hair products and walk around with frizzy or flat hair (depending on your hair type). We'll all be "au naturel".

So my question for this blog is, how do we keep our children safe? This experiment has obviously had some disastrous results (i.e. the one person slicing his own throat then shooting himself). I know we can't protect them from everyone and everything, but how do we educate our children to make responsible choices? Everyone experiments with something (alcohol, sex, mild drugs, smoking cigarettes) but how do we tell them about the "lesser of two evils"?

Things seem to be getting worse and more worse. Huffing paint and bath salts probably wasn't even in the youths' heads "back in the day".  Where did all of these "new things" come from?

It almost makes me not want to have children...well, a tad too late for that. I do have one, but probably won't have any more. Pretty soon we will be locking our children up or putting them in bubbles...instead of one bubble boy or bubble girl, we'll have bubble families? Hmm, now that's an idea.

Does putting your children in extra curricular activities and sports help the situation or make it worse by possibly exposing them to more "instances" for experimentation?  Should we keep them so busy they have no time to think about drugs? Or getting in trouble? Or by doing that would we create a new issue, over stimulation and too much pressure?

Should we share our "mistakes" with our kids, full disclosure? Or will that give them the excuse "well, you did it?" Will it change their "I'm indestructible mentality" or strengthen it?

Growing up nowadays seems so much harder then when I grew up (in the 80s and 90s). I couldn't imagine how someone my grandparents' age would feel with our youth,  things have to be 500x different then when they grew up.

Two Birds with One Stone

A course this semester is requiring that we create and manage a blog weekly. My mommy/toddler group asked me to take over the Topic of the Week, so I decided to combine the two "assignments". I thought this would be the easiest way for the mommies to follow our weekly topics while also getting course credit.

Sounds good to me!